I’M EXCITED TO ANNOUNCE THAT THE HUBBY AND I ARE EXPECTING A BABYCAKES THIS WINTER!
For the longest time, part of the problem was me. I will be real. Mentally, I just didn’t feel ready. I kept feeling like there was more I needed to do. I needed to be more stable as an entrepreneur. I needed to feel more accomplished. I knew that when I stopped to have a baby, I didn’t want to regret a thing.
When I turned 35 last year, something magical happened. I’m not sure if it was a hormonal change or the clock finally started ticking but I wanted a baby. The craving was real, and I couldn’t deny it.
We tried and tried month after month. I bought the ovulation kits and all that jazz but I started to feel nervous because I have a history with endometriosis, which started when I was a teenager. I had the most severe cramps and menstrual cycles that sometimes required me to be hospitalized. After a laparoscopy surgery in my mid-20s to remove ovarian cysts and continuous birth control pills since that time, I wondered if my eggs were any good. In fact, I had a doctor test them when I turned 32. The results at the time stated that my egg quantity and quality were that of a woman in her 40s. Talk about a downer. But I refused to believe that. I knew I was going to be a mom one day.
When we didn’t get pregnant by the end of last year, I started looking up fertility doctors since being pregnant was a major goal for me in early 2017. That’s how I work. I figure out what I want and then I go get it, even my BabyCakes. We found a clinic in downtown Chicago with a doctor that had amazing credentials. My doctor, Dr. Cohen, sat with Frederick and I for a consultation back in January and explained the pros and cons of everything. I felt so comfortable as soon as I met him and knew we were in good hands. The first thing we would do is start a ton of testing, and I mean a ton. He was initially alarmed by the test scores I presented him from the previous doctor so testing started with me three days after I received my cycle.
Welp turns out doctors and tests can be wrong y’all. God is the only one that has the answer. It turned out that I had a plethora of eggs in there. They did a few tests such as an amh which for my age group they wanted to be over a 1.00. Mine turned out to be over a 3.16. Then they did an ultrasound to count the number of resting follicles I had. The resting follicles helped them determine how many eggs they could possibly stimulate during IUI or IVF. Well I had a bunch of eggs on each of my ovaries. Seriously they counted something like 30 total. It was such a magical moment to experience knowing that the previous assessment was all the way wrong.
Next it was time for Frederick to test and that was where we ran into a few issues. As I’ve mentioned before on the blog, my husband had a kidney transplant several years ago that didn’t help with his testing if ya know what I mean. His daily medications had a cumulative effect which made the doctor say we need to skip IUI altogether and go straight to IVF.
IVF requires a great deal of patience, testing, blood draws, hormone shots and emotions over the course of several months. It’s definitely no joke so I plan to share the nitty gritty of it all in the next post! Stay tuned!